Wedding Vow Inspiration

Benny Roff - Melbourne Marriage Celebrant

As I mention in the Sample Order of Ceremony there are three basic options with vows: The minimum legal wording from the marriage act, traditional vows, or vows that you write yourself. The first option is the easiest and the last by far the most difficult, but also the most potentially rewarding. Below are some examples of write your own and traditional vows to give you a head start.

Write your Own Wedding Vows

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A take you, B to be my lawful wedded wife.

Today, I get to marry the most amazing woman in the world, a woman who has stuck by me through thick and thin. A woman who loves adventure, for our daily lives are an adventure, and upon discovering that adventures come at a cost, she has willingly paid. It takes a hell of a woman to be my equal, and you are just such a woman. I am incredibly happy and proud to become your husband.

I love you, but I realise that love is not enough, so I promise to do more than just love you.

I promise to be proactive rather than reactive with regard to the long-term health of our relationship. One can’t expect to have everything simply work out. That means reinventing our romance on a regular basis. Coming to terms with the practical nature of much of our relationship. It means confronting our issues, as hard as that is, so that our children need never face the burden of our discontent.

It means me believing in you. Realising on an ongoing basis that you really want the best for me, just as I hope you realise on an ongoing basis that I do for you.

I really believe that we can do this, and I’m telling you so in front of all the people that matter the most.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I B, take you A to be my lawful wedded husband.

I want to run through life, I want life to be an adventure. A, when we fell in love I knew that you were someone who wouldn’t be afraid to grab my hand and run with me. Sometimes you just have to close your eyes and leap into the unknown, and never is there a better moment to have someone holding your hand. You are the only person I’ve ever felt sure would jump with me every single time; and when you need to jump, I promise to be there holding your hand.

From the first moment I felt my heart mingle with yours, from your heart to your hands and then into mine, the fingers of our hearts wrapped around each other, through the birth of our beautiful baby girl, and then on to this moment, life with you has been an adventure of exactly the right kind. Your kindness and generosity and your amazing zeal for life and everything it throws at you inspire me every day.

Love burns. When you first fall in love it flares up like a newspaper on a fire, bright, magical, consuming. It burns rapidly with passion, and it’s wonderful and amazing. It burns and it hurts, hurts, hurts. Even when it’s good it still hurts. But it feels incredible. Then once the chaotic flames settle down it burns like a thick log, hot and aglow with warmth. It’s gentler, yet still wonderful and beautiful and warm.

[Groom], when we first fell in love, you set my whole world on fire. Granted the flames don’t rage in the same way that they did back then, but they burn deeper and stronger and with more permanency. I promise to stay with you beside that fire while we continue our adventure, raise our children and watch them raise theirs.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A take you, B to be my lawful wedded wife.

On days when we walk together, through our own neighbourhood among the coffee drinkers and dogs, under the Elm trees in Curtain Square and back home to the kitty on the front step, or along a beach cove up north where a lucky man might bend his knee, I like to let my thoughts take flight with yours. Because with you I can think back to the places where we’ve holidayed, and to the spare room at your mum’s and dad’s where the dog would come tumbling in to start our day, and to the Christmases and birthdays we’ve spent with our families in the summer sun, and to the winter evenings when we’ve groaned about work and laughed so hard afterwards. And I can think forwards, too, to the places we’ll go and the family we’ll be. But wherever we walk from here, I promise you, now and for everyone to hear, that I’ll always be there for you, listening and kicking the leaves.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, B take you A to be my lawful wedded husband.

On nights when I can’t sleep, and you’re snoring even if I put you on your side, and the kitty’s sleeping right in the middle of the bed so we’re both bent over at right angles, and there are trams up and down Nicholson and cars beeping on the road, I like to think about what I’d write in a book about you. Maybe a bit about all your dusty copies of Don De Lillo novels on the bookshelves. Maybe a bit about your socks with all the holes in the toes. Maybe a bit about you reading out loud while you write in your notebook. Maybe a bit about you reaching out for my hand on the street. Maybe I would write about the quiet moments, the just you and me moments, the moments out with our family and our friends. I like to think that I could find enough words, and all the right ones, to catch all the precious things that you are to me. And even though I may never find them, even though there may never be enough, I promise you, now and for everyone to hear, that I will spend the rest of my life trying to write them.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A take you, B to be my lawful wedded wife, loving everything I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know.

I promise to love you as you are, and will try really hard not to change you. You are the person I want you to be, and the one I want to be with.

You are smart, sexy, funny, selfless, caring, competitive, fun and loving. You have supported me without question, inspired me, and become my best friend.

I eagerly anticipate getting to know the person you will become as we go through life together and fall in love a little more every day.

I promise to love you without reservation, give you comfort when you need comfort, and space when you need space.

I vow to encourage you to achieve all of your goals, to hold you close as we laugh and as we cry, to grow with you in mind and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you through whatever life may bring us. Our future lies in the path we have chosen together.

I promise to work by your side to create a life that we can cherish, inspiring your love for me and mine for you, and to grow old by your side as your love and your best friend.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, B take you A to be my lawful wedded husband, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know.

I promise to love you as you are and not to try to change you. You are the person I want you to be and the one with whom I want to be.

I relish the idea of getting to know the person you will become as we go through life together and fall in love a little more each day.

I promise to give you the freedom to keep dreaming big and creating great things, and the security of knowing someone is in your corner, protecting home base.

I vow to love you without reservation, to hold you close as we laugh and as we cry, to grow with you in mind and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you through whatever life may bring us.

I promise to work by your side to create a life that we can cherish and laugh our way through, inspiring your love for me and mine for you, and to grow old by your side as your love and best friend.

Traditional Wedding Vows

I declare before the witnesses here present that I XYZ take thee ABC to be my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in

sickness and in health, to love, honour, and cherish, ’til death do us part, and
this I vow to you.

GROOM’ VOW: “I, ___________, take thee __________ to my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, for fairer or fouler, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us depart; and thereunto I plight thee my troth.
BRIDE’S VOW: I ___________ take thee___________ to my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to be bonny and buxom at bed and at board, to love and to cherish, till death us depart; and thereunto I plight thee my troth.
You cannot possess me for I belong to myself,
But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give You cannot command me, for I am a free person,
But I shall serve you in those ways you require and
the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand.
I pledge to you that yours will be the name
I cry aloud in the night and the eyes into which I smile in the morning.
I pledge to you the first bite of my meat and the first drink from my cup I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care
I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine
I shall not slander you, nor you me
I shall honour you above all others, and
when we quarrel we shall do so in private and
tell no strangers our grievances
This is my wedding vow to you This is the marriage of equals.
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