I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A
take you, B
to be my lawful wedded wife.
Today, I get to marry the most amazing woman in the world, a woman who has stuck by me through thick and thin. A woman who loves adventure, for our daily lives are an adventure, and upon discovering that adventures come at a cost, she has willingly paid. It takes a hell of a woman to be my equal, and you are just such a woman. I am incredibly happy and proud to become your husband.
I love you, but I realise that love is not enough, so I promise to do more than just love you.
I promise to be proactive rather than reactive with regard to the long-term health of our relationship. One can’t expect to have everything simply work out. That means reinventing our romance on a regular basis. Coming to terms with the practical nature of much of our relationship. It means confronting our issues, as hard as that is, so that our children need never face the burden of our discontent.
It means me believing in you. Realising on an ongoing basis that you really want the best for me, just as I hope you realise on an ongoing basis that I do for you.
I really believe that we can do this, and I’m telling you so in front of all the people that matter the most.
I call upon the persons here present to witness that I B, take you A to be my lawful wedded husband.
I want to run through life, I want life to be an adventure. A, when we fell in love I knew that you were someone who wouldn’t be afraid to grab my hand and run with me. Sometimes you just have to close your eyes and leap into the unknown, and never is there a better moment to have someone holding your hand. You are the only person I’ve ever felt sure would jump with me every single time; and when you need to jump, I promise to be there holding your hand.
From the first moment I felt my heart mingle with yours, from your heart to your hands and then into mine, the fingers of our hearts wrapped around each other, through the birth of our beautiful baby girl, and then on to this moment, life with you has been an adventure of exactly the right kind. Your kindness and generosity and your amazing zeal for life and everything it throws at you inspire me every day.
Love burns. When you first fall in love it flares up like a newspaper on a fire, bright, magical, consuming. It burns rapidly with passion, and it’s wonderful and amazing. It burns and it hurts, hurts, hurts. Even when it’s good it still hurts. But it feels incredible. Then once the chaotic flames settle down it burns like a thick log, hot and aglow with warmth. It’s gentler, yet still wonderful and beautiful and warm.
[Groom], when we first fell in love, you set my whole world on fire. Granted the flames don’t rage in the same way that they did back then, but they burn deeper and stronger and with more permanency. I promise to stay with you beside that fire while we continue our adventure, raise our children and watch them raise theirs.